Daryl Urbanski and Kim Ades discussed the challenges and opportunities of balancing entrepreneurship and family life, emphasizing the importance of creating traditions and establishing clear boundaries to ensure everyone's needs are met. They also discussed the significance of emotional resilience in maintaining healthy romantic relationships and achieving personal growth through journaling and storytelling. Additionally, they explored the importance of mindset and personal growth in achieving success, and the difficulties entrepreneurs face in managing their finances and marketing their businesses effectively. Finally, they highlighted the evolution of coaching from task management to focusing on states of being, and the need to address obstacles that prevent individuals from being accountable to themselves.
Here are the reasons why you should listen to the full interview
- Learn how to convert stumbling blocks into stepping stones for success.
- Discover the nuances of smart investing as an entrepreneur and deriving valuable feedback for improvement.
- Understand the transformative impact of certain habits—like journaling—on your path to success.
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Interview Highlights
Entrepreneurship, family planning, and financial management
- Daryl Urbanski interviews Kim Ades, founder of Frame of Mind Coaching and Journal Engine software.
- Kim shares her philosophy on performance through thought mastery, helping clients shift their thinking for personal transformation.
- Daryl Urbanski discusses his desire for a big family and financial ability to afford it, despite being an orphan and adopted stepchild.
- Kim Ades questions Daryl's decision to have 4-8 children without a partner, exploring the financial and logistical challenges of raising a large family.
Blending two families together and maintaining a sense of family unity
- Daryl Urbanski expresses concerns about balancing career and family goals with a partner who doesn't have their own ambitions.
- Kim Ades shares their personal story of raising five children, including two from a previous marriage and three from their current husband's full custody.
- Kim Ades's husband insisted they travel together as a family, leading to the creation of new traditions and a sense of unity.
- Kim Ades shares how their family found structure and bonding through activities like journaling and naming their team, "Team Fax."
- Kim Ades emphasizes the importance of traditions and routine for maintaining a close-knit family, even when members are different personalities or have different interests.
Entrepreneurship, motherhood, and emotional resilience
- Daryl Urbanski agrees that working allows them to feel more energized and engaged as a parent.
- Daryl Urbanski appreciates the concept of entrepreneurial personality type and its connection to momentum.
- Daryl Urbanski and Kim have different mindsets when working from home, with Daryl being an entrepreneur and Kim prioritizing wellness.
- Kim Ades emphasizes the importance of being in a healthy relationship, where both partners show up feeling good and are engaged in the relationship.
- Kim Ades discovered key indicator of top performance: emotional resilience in bouncing back from adversity.
Emotional resilience, focus, and balance with Kim Ades
- Daryl Urbanski and Kim discuss the importance of emotional resilience in overcoming adversity and turning negative events into opportunities.
- Daryl and Kim emphasize the need to focus on what you want, rather than getting distracted by external factors, in order to achieve success.
- Kim shares how they balance multiple roles and responsibilities by finding complete balance, like being on a seesaw with a friend.
- Kim Ades explains that when the seesaw is in complete balance, nothing is happening, and that's the state of balance they aim for in their life.
Mindset and approach to life, with emphasis on engagement and presence
- Kim emphasizes the importance of being present and engaged in the moment, rather than striving for balance.
- Life is a ride, and we can choose how we want to experience it, with options for struggle or enjoyment.
- Daryl Urbanski emphasizes the importance of mindset in achieving success, citing examples from martial arts and sports.
- Kim Ades highlights the role of mental preparation in determining success, using the example of Olympic athletes.
Embracing feedback and growth mindset for personal growth and success
- Daryl Urbanski and Kim discuss challenges in their careers, including learning to separate identity from work and dealing with reputation issues.
- Kim overcame a challenge by creating private journaling software for clients to protect their personal information.
- Feedback is an opportunity for growth, not a failure.
- Daryl Urbanski: Use feedback to adjust your movement, don't give up.
Finding fulfillment through self-awareness and intentional living
- Daryl Urbanski and Kim discuss the idea that people are constantly searching for something more, despite being in the present moment.
- Daryl and Kim agree that having goals and accomplishments is important, but being present in the moment is key to truly living.
- Daryl Urbanski emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and intentional living.
Overcoming obstacles to achieve goals, including self-sabotage and lack of focus
- Kim discusses the importance of understanding one's mindset in achieving goals.
- Daryl Urbanski agrees, emphasizing the need to address underlying issues.
- Kim uses the metaphor of a staircase to illustrate how ignoring a part of one's life can hinder progress.
- Kim faced challenges in understanding where to spend money and how to use resources effectively in their business.
- Experimentation and testing ideas through pilots can help reduce risk and improve the direction of the business.
- Valuable feedback from clients and testimonials can provide credibility and speak volumes about the effectiveness of the business.
Journaling and personal development for success
- Daryl Urbanski and a client discuss the importance of journaling for self-correction and personal development.
- Successful clients prioritize journaling and personal development as a lifelong habit.
- Daryl Urbanski shares journaling exercise to uncover true desires and overcome obstacles.
- Participants are encouraged to send their responses to Kim at Frame of Mind Coaching for deeper analysis and coaching.
Journaling exercise to overcome adversity
- Daryl Urbanski and Speaker 2 discuss the importance of identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs to achieve success.
- Kim provides an exercise to help listeners gain valuable insights into their thoughts and emotions, and improve their emotional resilience.
- Kim suggests writing down a past event's story, including who was involved, what happened, and how it impacted you, to gain insight into how it still affects you now.
- Kim encourages the listener to re-read the story and consider how it wants to impact them now, and what story they want to tell about it.
Coaching industry trends, including emerging great coaches and moving away from accountability-based coaching towards helping people understand how their thinking impact
- Daryl Urbanski emphasizes the power of self-talk in shaping one's potential.
- Daryl encourages listeners to reframe their stories to unlock their true potential.
- Kim predicts a divide between exceptional and average coaches, and a shift towards helping clients understand how their thinking impacts results.
- Kim coaches clients, emphasizing personal growth and accountability.
- Kim Ades's philosophy prioritizes self-accountability, questioning what hinders progress.
The importance of addressing states of being in coaching
- Kim emphasizes the importance of addressing states of being in coaching, rather than just managing tasks and activities.
- Kim encourages listeners to reach out to her for further discussion and support in improving their state of being.
- Daryl Urbanski encourages listeners to take action and overcome challenges to achieve success.
- Kim shares insights on how to help others and build a successful business.